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How my ADHD makes handling relationships difficult
19 aaronyarborough 12 5/5/2025, 8:53:44 PM aaronjy.me ↗
RSD can't be solved 100%. At best, you can give yourself some guidance on how to resume contact with someone:
1) When was the last time I was in touch with this person?
2) How would I rate my relationship with them on a scale of 1-10 -- this is important because in adulthood friendships can fade even if nobody did anything wrong
3) Why do I feel they would not want to hear from me?
4) List 3 light topics of conversation that are low-risk, and choose one to reach out with. That can help reduce the internal resistance, which is a key factor in RSD.
What I expect to get from it are hopefully new insights on the behaviours I described, not from my dumb Airtable setup, but from just putting _something_ new in to try and break the cycle. While setting it up (and writing this post), I was thinking about the problem in-depth, which is what's really valuable here.
Tip #4 on your list might work for me. I'm going to try that next time it comes up. Thanks!
I enjoy learning from posts like this because it can help identify patterns I might not have otherwise noticed. From there I can do something.
Something I do periodically is scroll my iMessages and see if there are conversations that have been dormant longer than I’d like. If so, I try to think of something to resurrect the thread.
A sad part of life is acknowledging that in relationships, one person usually cares more than the other. This is why we're encouraged to build OK friendships with several people instead of putting all our apples in one really good friend.
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It should be noted that this is just a term one guy made up, and isn't medically accepted as an ADHD symptom.
Of course it is a legitimate thing that happens to people.
There's my partner. Heck, now I'm almost full!
Been there, done that, i can tell you it’s a bad approach, because relationships don’t last forever and aren’t always smooth 100% of the time.
Having friends is often also having somebody that you can talk about your issues (even about issues with your partner) and get a different opinion.
Opinions are like assholes, we all have 'em and they all stink. Take care :)