So I read the whole story...this Bi character sounds like every bad Silicon Valley yuppie stereotype rolled into one, with a big dose of legit mental illness. The lady sounded extremely manic. Don't know if it is just rage bait, but sure worked that way.
FireBeyond · 35m ago
Absolutely. It was escalating through the story, but this paragraph nailed it:
> She also hired psychics to give her answers. As she tells it, they all blamed Smith. One suggested that an ex-boyfriend of Smith’s had turned her against Baby Leon. Another claimed to see traumas on Smith’s belly and said she was clearly having rough sex. He warned: “She has something to hide.” When Smith refused to release her medical records unless nonpregnancy information was redacted, Bi saw it as confirmation that Smith was hiding crucial details.
What in living fuck do psychics have to do with a surrogacy process?
Also, this:
> SAI countered that there was “no documented bleed” on the date in question but clarified that there was “some light pink fluid which the doctor was not concerned about.” SAI said Smith asked the doctors to tell Bi directly, and that the contract gave Smith two weeks to tell Bi. “That’s emergency information,” Bi said. “She should have told me right away.”
You're going to have a hard time convincing a court that an obstetrician noted, and was unconcerned about something but that you believe it was "emergency information".
> If Bi had been told, she believed that Leon would be alive. She would’ve insisted on a C-section immediately.
A layperson insisting on a C-section at what would have been ... 27-28 weeks gestation? Where viability is ~70% at best? There's so much to poke at there. Ostensibly, Bi had a contract with the surrogacy agency that "guaranteed" a "well baby". One, who writes that contract? And seems to me the mere act of "insisting" on a C-section (which let's also be clear, has a risk to the mother, though lower) at that gestation would be at odds with any "guarantees".
I do actually agree with you, everything about Bi (from the article, requisite grains of salt) screams mental illness. This just keeps giving:
> As Bi would claim online, on January 13, Smith had “snuck out” with her son, gone 40 miles per hour in a 25-mile-per-hour zone, then “snuck back into” the hospital.
Took herself into hospital, concerned that her water might have broken early, but then "sneaks out of the hospital", gets a speeding fine, then "sneaks back into hospital". In what possible world does that make sense or seem consistent behavior? "I'm concerned enough to go to hospital, but ehhhh, lets just go for a drive"?
> Next, Bi iMessaged a photo of Leon’s corpse to Smith’s 7-year-old son’s iPad.
As someone who is not in the world of surrogacy: how much control does someone typically have over a surrogate during the pregnancy? Also what are you supposed to do in the event a surrogate has irreparable harm like losing a uterus or death?
tuckerman · 43m ago
> how much control does someone typically have over a surrogate during the pregnancy
Very little, ultimately the healthcare the surrogate is receiving is _her_ healthcare.
> what are you supposed to do in the event a surrogate has irreparable harm
These things are spelled out in the contract that the IPs have with their surrogate. Both things you mention are specifically called in our contract and the agency/IPs usually have insurance to cover these cases.
> She also hired psychics to give her answers. As she tells it, they all blamed Smith. One suggested that an ex-boyfriend of Smith’s had turned her against Baby Leon. Another claimed to see traumas on Smith’s belly and said she was clearly having rough sex. He warned: “She has something to hide.” When Smith refused to release her medical records unless nonpregnancy information was redacted, Bi saw it as confirmation that Smith was hiding crucial details.
What in living fuck do psychics have to do with a surrogacy process?
Also, this:
> SAI countered that there was “no documented bleed” on the date in question but clarified that there was “some light pink fluid which the doctor was not concerned about.” SAI said Smith asked the doctors to tell Bi directly, and that the contract gave Smith two weeks to tell Bi. “That’s emergency information,” Bi said. “She should have told me right away.”
You're going to have a hard time convincing a court that an obstetrician noted, and was unconcerned about something but that you believe it was "emergency information".
> If Bi had been told, she believed that Leon would be alive. She would’ve insisted on a C-section immediately.
A layperson insisting on a C-section at what would have been ... 27-28 weeks gestation? Where viability is ~70% at best? There's so much to poke at there. Ostensibly, Bi had a contract with the surrogacy agency that "guaranteed" a "well baby". One, who writes that contract? And seems to me the mere act of "insisting" on a C-section (which let's also be clear, has a risk to the mother, though lower) at that gestation would be at odds with any "guarantees".
I do actually agree with you, everything about Bi (from the article, requisite grains of salt) screams mental illness. This just keeps giving:
> As Bi would claim online, on January 13, Smith had “snuck out” with her son, gone 40 miles per hour in a 25-mile-per-hour zone, then “snuck back into” the hospital.
Took herself into hospital, concerned that her water might have broken early, but then "sneaks out of the hospital", gets a speeding fine, then "sneaks back into hospital". In what possible world does that make sense or seem consistent behavior? "I'm concerned enough to go to hospital, but ehhhh, lets just go for a drive"?
> Next, Bi iMessaged a photo of Leon’s corpse to Smith’s 7-year-old son’s iPad.
There are no words.
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Very little, ultimately the healthcare the surrogate is receiving is _her_ healthcare.
> what are you supposed to do in the event a surrogate has irreparable harm
These things are spelled out in the contract that the IPs have with their surrogate. Both things you mention are specifically called in our contract and the agency/IPs usually have insurance to cover these cases.
Source: I had my son through surrogacy