I think internet culture has really taught me how hard it is to have your own identity. I've never been attached to the idea of thinking myself as an "alpha" or "beta" man. I was raised by women, always gotten along with women, in some ways preferred women, and also, did "well" with women.

I'm curious whether or not men who find themselves on one end of this spectrum find happiness on the other end of this spectrum. I vaguely get criticisms of sort of demasculanization that may occur on one end of this spectrum, but I've also sort of always just done what I want to do without too much thought to gender. I have traditionally "masculine" traits and hobbies, and probably some traditionally feminine ones as well.

But I also acknowledge that I think personality-wise I've had more freedom from traditional definitions of identity then most people. It's not that I've always know who I was or fit in, but in spite of that I've just never cared what people think about me in that specific way, or at least, if I did care about it, I was going to respond or defend myself in a very surfacey way, I wasn't going to let it change or question my core identity.